Sexual Science

Pelvic Congestion Syndrome: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatments

Chronic pelvic pain is a common occurrence among people assigned female at birth, affecting an estimated 15% of people of childbearing age in the United States. One of the causes of pelvic pain is pelvic congestion syndrome (PCS). PCS occurs when varicose veins develop around the ovaries. Varicose veins are twisted, enlarged veins that most often appear on the legs because standing and walking cause the blood to engorge the leg veins. Most of the time, varicose veins are completely benign and painless but when they appear on the ovaries, they can cause pain and discomfort. The exact cause is still unknown but pregnancy and estrogen can both play key roles in making the veins structurally unsound. Any type of chronic pain can be disruptive to your life so it is important to learn about the cause of your pain and what your treatment options are. This article will cover the symptoms of pelvic congestion syndrome, how it affects one’s sex life, and the treatment options that exist. 

What are the symptoms of pelvic congestion syndrome?

Dull and achy pelvic pain is the primary symptom of PCS, but it can manifest as a sharp pain as well. The pain can be exacerbated after standing or sitting for a long time, before and during menstruation or sexual activity. Additional symptoms include varicose veins in other places like the pelvis, buttocks, and vulva, an irritable bowel, stress incontinence, and pain with urination.   

How does pelvic congestion syndrome affect one’s sex life?

As mentioned above, pelvic congestion syndrome and the associated pain tends to be exacerbated by sexual intercourse. This not only poses physical obstacles to having sex, especially penetrative sex, but chronic pain can also cause a low libido. That does not mean that you can never achieve a fulfilling sex life though. In addition to the PCS treatment options below, there are ways to have great sex without penetration. You can engage in alternative forms of intimacy, like mutual masturbation, give and/or receive a sensual massage, or cuddle skin-to-skin. There are also ways to try to boost your libido, if you so desire. None of these options provide a permanent solution, but there are treatment options that can make it easier to live with PCS. 

   What are the treatment options for pelvic congestion syndrome?

Diagnosing pelvic congestion syndrome is not easy because the symptoms are easily conflated with other conditions and there is no test that will outright prove that PCS is the culprit. For this reason, doctors will typically run tests to rule out similar conditions, as well as use imaging like ultrasounds. Ultrasounds provide a view of the soft tissue; if more detailed imaging is required, a doctor may opt for an MRI or CT scan. The goal of diagnosis and treatment is to reduce or relieve pelvic pain, but there is unfortunately no known cure for PCS. The treatment you and your doctor pursue will depend on factors such as the severity of your symptoms and your medical history.

Treatment options for PCS may include: 

  • Gonadotropin hormone drugs. Gonadotropins are hormones that regulate ovarian function; they are essential for growth, development, and reproduction functions. These drugs can block ovarian function and therefore relieve some pain.  

  • Progestin hormone drugs. Similarly to gonadotropins, progestin drugs are hormonal drugs that serve to relieve pain by assisting the regulatory function of your reproductive system. 

  • Sclerotherapy or embolization. A sclerotherapy is a typical treatment option for any varicose veins, including pelvic veins, such as is the case for PCS. It involves a needle that injects a solution which causes the damaged vein to scar and eventually fade as blood is rerouted to healthier veins. A similar concept but different execution is gonadal vein embolization is a minimally invasive treatment that involves a small incision for a tube that is used to dispatch a sclerosant that blocks the vein, therefore guiding the blood to healthier vessels, similar to how sclerotherapy works. 

  • Oophorectomy or Hysterectomy (to remove your uterus and ovaries). An oophorectomy (removal of the ovaries) and hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) are reserved for the most severe cases of PCS after milder treatments have failed. However, these procedures have been shown to be a very effective treatment for PCS pain in treatment-resistant cases.

The Bottom Line

Pelvic congestion syndrome is a taxing condition that has the potential to significantly impact your quality of life, particularly your sex life. However, with a proper diagnosis and treatment plan, you can find relief. If you suspect you have PCS, you should consult with a healthcare professional to explore your options. Additionally, if you need extra support for your mental health and/or your libido and sex life due to the chronic pain, consider reaching out to a therapist.   

7 Contraceptive Options: An Overview

Practicing safer sex is a vital part of reproductive health and some of the best tools to support safer sex are contraceptives. There is a wide variety of types of birth control and different options suit different lifestyles best. For example, for people who want to prevent pregnancy with a low maintenance option, an implant or IUD may be a good option. Embrace Sexual Wellness has compiled an overview of contraceptive options, with information such as efficacy, pros and cons, side effects, and more. We hope this guide will aid you in figuring out which method will work best for you. Keep in mind that condoms and dental dams are the only form of contraceptive that protects against STIs and should be paired with another method to ensure the most effective protection against pregnancy and STIs. We recommend using at least two methods, one of which should protect against STIs, to ensure the maximum amount of protection.     

Note: all efficacy rates refer to perfect usage of the method and with those that require manual maintenance, human error may diminish efficacy rates

Intrauterine Devices (IUDs)

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Overview

  • Efficacy: 99% effective

  • STI Protection: Does not protect against STIs

  • How it’s used: inserted by a doctor. No manual maintenance required

  • Types

    • Copper (Paragard) 

      • How it works

        • A copper IUD is a plastic body with copper wrapped around it. Copper changes the way sperm cells move so they can’t access the egg. 

      • Benefits

        • High efficacy at preventing pregnancy 

        • Lasts up to 12 years but can be removed at any time by a doctor

        • Can be used as emergency birth control if inserted within 5 days of unprotected sex 

        • Does not need manual maintenance 

      • Drawbacks

        • Insertion can be uncomfortable

        • Initial side effects can be unpleasant but for most, should subside after the first 6-12 months 

        • Does not provide STI protection

    • Hormonal (Mirena, Kyleena, Liletta, and Skyla)

      • How it works

        • Hormonal IUDs release a small amount of progestin which mimics the hormone progesterone that bodies naturally make. These hormones both make the cervical mucus thicker to block sperm from accessing the egg and the hormones can also stop ovulation, meaning there’s no egg present to be fertilized  

      • Benefits 

        • Long-lasting

          • Mirena: up to 7 years 

          • Kyleena: up to 5 years

          • Liletta: up to 7 years

          • Skyla: up to 3 years

        • For some, lightened periods and cramps

        • Can potentially manage symptoms of endometriosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS)

      • Drawbacks

        • Insertion can be uncomfortable

        • Initial side effects can be unpleasant but for most, should subside after the first 6-12 months 

        • Hormones may worsen or complicate pre-existing mental and reproductive health conditions

        • Does not provide STI protection 

  • How to Access It

    • IUDs have to be inserted by a doctor, most commonly an OB/GYN or a clinic like Planned Parenthood

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Longer and heavier periods and cramps for the first 6-12 months

    • Irregular periods and spotting between periods 

  • Works Best For

    • People who want to “set and forget” their birth control.

    • People who, for whatever reason, can’t or don’t want to use hormonal birth control (copper only) 

    • People who are interested in birth control that has the potential to lighten or get rid of periods (hormonal IUDs only) 

  • Contraindications

    • Conditions that cause pain from vaginal penetration such vaginismus

    • Mental illness (not for all; case by case basis) 

    • People who want a regular, natural period


Birth Control Pills

Overview

  • Efficacy: 91% effective

  • STI Protection: Does not protect against STIs

  • How it’s used: Oral ingestion once a day at the same time

  • Types

    • Combination (estrogen and progestin)

      • How it works

        • The hormones in the pill prevent ovaries from releasing  an egg each month, thickens cervical mucus to block sperm, and thins lining of sperm to lower risk of fertilized egg implanting in the womb.

        • The last week of the pack is hormone-free to allow a period to happen. For those interested in skipping their periods, consult your healthcare professional about not taking the hormone-free week of pills.

      • Benefits 

        • Less strict time window for taking the pill, though it’s recommended to take it around the same time everyday to help stick to the routine

      • Drawbacks

        • Does not protect against STIs

    • Progestin only

      • How it works

        • The hormones in the pill prevent ovaries from releasing  an egg each month, thickens cervical mucus to block sperm, and thins lining of sperm to lower risk of fertilized egg implanting in the womb.

      • Benefits

        • For those who want to lighten or eliminate their period, hormonal birth control may help 

      • Drawbacks

        • Must be taken in the same 3 hour window every day to be effective

        • Does not protect against STIs

  • How to Access It

    • Must be prescribed by a healthcare professional 

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Spotting or bleeding between periods

    • Sore breasts

    • Nausea

    • Headaches

    • Weight gain

  • Works Best For

    • People who can remember and stick to a scheduled daily routine

  • Contraindications

    • If you’re prone to blood clots and strokes

    • Any condition involving regular vomiting and/or diarrhea, as the pill will not work following these functions

Nexplanon Implant

Overview

  • Efficacy: 99+% effective

  • STI Protection: Does not protect against STIs

  • How it’s used: implanted in arm by a healthcare professional under local anesthetic. No manual maintenance required 

  • Type

    • Nexplanon

      • How it works

        • Releases progesterone to prevent the release of an egg each month and thickens cervical mucus to block sperm cells. 

      • Benefits

        • Long lasting (up to 5 years)

        • Highly effective

      • Drawbacks

        • Does not protect against STIs

        • Requires minor doctor’s office procedure 

  • How to Access It

    • Must be inserted into arm by healthcare professional, most commonly an OB/GYN 

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Irregular bleeding especially in the first 6-12 months

    • Headaches

    • Breast pain 

    • Nausea

    • Temporary bruising around insertion area  

  • Works Best For

    • People who want low maintenance birth control 

    • People who can’t use estrogen-based contraception

  • Contraindications

    • If you’ve had or do have breast cancer

Depo-Provera Injections

Overview

  • Efficacy: 94%

  • STI Protection: Does not protect against STIs

  • How it’s used: Injected in a doctor’s office once every 3 months

  • Type

    • Depo-Provera

      • How it works

        • Releases progesterone which prevents ovulation, thickens cervical mucus to block sperm, and thins lining of womb to lessen likelihood of egg implantation.

      • Benefits

        • May reduce heavy, painful periods

        • Less maintenance than the pill 

      • Drawbacks

        • Ability to get pregnant may not return for up to one year after ceasing injections

        • Does not protect against STIs 

        • Medium maintenance - requires doctor’s visit every 3 months

  • How to Access It

    • Injections must be performed in a doctor’s office 

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Changes to period

      • Bleeding more than usual

      • Spotting

      • Lack of a period

      • Nausea

      • Weight gain

      • Depression

      • Sore breasts

  • Works Best For

    • Those who cannot use estrogen-based birth control

    • Those who need a discreet method of birth control 

  • Contraindications

    • If you want to be able to get pregnant soon after ceasing birth control

    • If you struggle with mental illness (case by case basis) 

Condoms

Overview

  • Efficacy: 85% effective  

  • STI Protection: Yes, when used correctly, condoms protect against STIs 

  • How it’s used: worn on the penis to prevent sperm from entering the vaginal canal (external condom) or inserted into vaginal canal (internal condom) 

For an extensive overview of types of condoms and tips for usage, read this Embrace Sexual Wellness article

Diaphragm and Spermicide

Overview

  • Efficacy: 88% effective

  • STI Protection: No, they do not protect against STIs

  • How it’s used: the shallow, bendable cup is inserted into the vaginal canal and covers the cervix to block sperm from entering. Must be used in conjunction with spermicide 

  • Parts

    • Diaphragm

      • How it works

        • Creates physical barrier between cervix and sperm

      • Benefits

        • Non-hormonal option

        • Not as intrusive as more long term contraceptives like IUDs

        • Effective immediately after it’s inserted

        • Few side effects

      • Drawbacks

        • Less effective than other options

        • Efficacy may be affected by human error 

        • Must stay inside vaginal canal for 6 hours after sex but not more than 24 hours

        • Learning curve for inserting it 

    • Spermicide

      • How it works

        • Chemicals stop sperm movement, held in place by the diaphragm 

      • Benefits 

        • Increases efficacy of diaphragm

      • Drawbacks

        • May cause irritation and/or UTIs

        • If you have sex again after applying it, you still must apply it again 

  • How to Access It

    •  Must be prescribed by your healthcare practitioner

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Frequent UTIs

    • Irritation from spermicide can make vaginal canal more susceptible to STIs 

  • Works Best For

    • Those who cannot use hormonal birth control 

    • Those who don’t mind a high maintenance option 

  • Contraindications

    • If you can’t commit to consistently using the diaphragm properly

    • If you’re allergic to silicone, latex, or spermicide

    • If you have vaginal abnormalities that disallow a proper fit or placement

Patch

Overview

  • Efficacy: 99% effective

  • STI Protection: Does not provide STI protection

  • How it’s used: Must be stuck to either the belly, buttocks, back, or upper outer arm (latter option for Xulane only) and replaced once a week 

  • Types

    • Xulane

      • How it works

        • The patch transdermally introduces the hormones estrogen and norelgestromin, a form of progestin, which suppress ovulation. The patch needs to be replaced every 7 days for the first three weeks of the month and no patch is worn on the last week of the month.

      • Benefits

        • Potentially may help acne and make periods lighter

        • High effectiveness

        • Only needs to be replaced once a week 

        • Possible to get pregnant immediately after ceasing use

      • Drawbacks

        • Only works effectively for those with a BMI below 30

        • Patch may be susceptible to falling off

    • Twirla

      • How it works

        • The patch transdermally introduces the hormones estrogen and levonorgestrel, a form of progestin, which suppress ovulation. The patch needs to be replaced every 7 days for the first three weeks of the month and no patch is worn on the last week of the month.  

      • Benefits 

        • Potentially may help acne and make periods lighter 

        • High effectiveness

        • Only needs to be replaced once a week

        • Possible to get pregnant immediately after ceasing use

      • Drawbacks

        • Only works effectively for those with a BMI below 30

        • Patch may be susceptible to falling off 

        • Requires manual maintenance 

  • How to Access It

    •  Must be prescribed by a healthcare professional

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Nausea

    • Headache

    • Skin irritation around patch 

  • Works Best For

    • Those with a BMI under 30

    • Those who want a less invasive contraceptive that doesn’t require as frequent maintenance as the pill

    • Those who are not regularly submerged in water because it may compromise the adhesion of the patch

  • Contraindications

    • People with a BMI over 30

    • Smokers over the age of 35 


Vaginal Ring

Overview

  • Efficacy: 99%

  • STI Protection: The ring does not protect against STIs

  • How it’s used: The ring needs to be inserted into the vaginal canal. The NuvaRing needs to be replaced every 5 weeks while ANNOVERA lasts a full year.

  • Types

    • NuvaRing

      • How it works

        • The NuvaRing releases a continuous low dose of the hormones etonogestrel and ethinyl estradiol to prevent pregnancy 

      • Benefits

        • Has the potential to reduce acne and make periods lighter

        • High effectiveness

        • Option to skip period altogether

      • Drawbacks

        • Requires remembering to replace the ring 

        • Possible for ring to fall out 

        • Cheaper options than ANNOVERA ring

    • ANNOVERA

      • How it works

        • The ANNOVERA releases a continuous low dose of the hormones segesterone acetate and ethinyl estradiol to prevent pregnancy 

      • Benefits

        • Lasts a full year

        • Has the potential to reduce acne and make periods lighter

        • High effectiveness

        • Option to skip period altogether

      • Drawbacks

        • More expensive than NuvaRing because no generic exists currently

        • Cannot be used while breastfeeding

  • How to Access It

    •  Must be prescribed by a healthcare professional

  • Potential Side Effects 

    • Headaches

    • Nausea 

    • Sore breasts

  • Works Best For

    • Those who want total control over their birth control but don’t want the frequency of maintenance of the pill

    • Those who want a less long term hormonal option than the IUD

  • Contraindications

    • Smokers over 35

    • Breastfeeding people

It may take a few tries to find the best contraceptive method for your life. If you’re still unsure of where to start, try this Planned Parenthood quiz about what types of birth control might work for you. Make sure to consult your healthcare professional about the pros and cons of different contraceptives within the context of your life. Remember to use at least two contraceptive methods with one that protects against STIs every time you have sex. Sex can never be 100% risk-free but contraceptives greatly increase safety for everyone involved. 

9 Myths You Missed in Sex Ed Class

No matter where and when you got your sex education, you likely heard some incorrect information, whether it be from friends, parents, pop culture, the media, or formal education. If you learned false information about sex, we are here to help. 

Generalizations are often made leaving some to feel confused or harmed by the information given to them. Today on the Embrace Sexual Wellness blog, we will be debunking some of the myths you may have learned about sex. 

Myth #1: Orgasm is the be-all-and-end-all of sex

Having an orgasm can be a wonderful sensation, but it does not have to be the goal of all sexual interactions. Sex is so much more than the moment of orgasm. It is about pleasure and connection with your partner(s). Consider this, what would it be like if you thought about sexual pleasure as a journey and not a destination?

Thinking about orgasm as the goal of sex can also lead to increased stress, not pleasure. According to a study published in Hippokratia, when one feels pressure to perform sexually, their body activates its sympathetic nervous system, which results in the increased production of stress hormones, such as epinephrine, norepinephrine and cortisol. These hormones increase blood pressure levels and reduce blood flow to the genitals, which can lead to sexual functioning problems (e.g., decreased sensation in the vulva, erectile dysfunction, inhibited arousal), as well as a more stressful sexual dynamic between partners.

Orgasms are not a given in all sexual interactions and this pressure to perform can lead to added stress. A 2020 study in Current Sexual Health Reports notes that the orgasm gap still exists. The orgasm gap is the phenomenon that in heterosexual relationships, male partners orgasm at higher rates than their female counterparts. Furthermore, the experience of orgasm can be limiting. A theory in an article published in Current Sexual Health Reports states that those with penises are more likely to reach orgasm since they are taught from a young age that it is okay to explore their bodies more than those with vulvas. Additionally, the research suggests that the cultural prioritization of penile-vaginal intercourse over more clitorally focused sexual activities is linked to the orgasm gap.  

Furthermore, an article in Healthline emphasizes the importance of pleasure during sex aside from an orgasm. The article also notes that when focusing on achieving orgasm alone, safety, well-being, respect, and connection are neglected. 

TLDR: Orgasms are wonderful, but they are not the be-all-and-end-all.


Myth #2: Sex = vaginal penetration 

The heteronormative idea that sex is simply vaginal penetration is incorrect. According to Teen Health Source, a Planned Parenthood Canadian-run sexual health information service for teens, the definition of sex is flexible. Being sexual means different things to different people, and only you get to decide how you define being sexual. Sex can include a range of activities that feel sexual and pleasurable to you.

Research inspired by Alfred Kinsey that was published in PLOS ONE, indicates that there are many common sexual behaviors including but not limited to vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, sending and receiving nude images, and masturbation. Assuming that sex is only vaginal penetration is exclusionary to those who do not have vaginal sex, or cannot for health reasons. By expanding our definitions of sex, we can make sex more inclusive to people across all identities. 


Myth #3: A person with a vulva pops their cherry when they have sex for the first time

Did you ever hear the phrase “popping one’s cherry”? The phrase popping your cherry tends to apply to the belief that an intact hymen is an indicator if someone with a vulva has engaged in vaginal intercourse. According to an article in Women’s Health Magazine, many still believe that an intact hymen is a sign of purity. Well, guess what? Popping one’s cherry is not an accurate phrase in determining if someone has engaged in vaginal intercourse or is “pure”.

The hymen is a membrane that lines the opening of the vagina and varies in its size and shape. According to Medical News Today, many people with vulvas do not experience tearing of the hymen during sexual intercourse and sometimes hymens are torn during other non-sexual physical activities, such as horseback riding, riding bicycles, gymnastics, and inserting tampons. In fact, according to a study published in the North American Society for Pediatric and Adolescent Gynecology, some people with vaginas do not have hymen to begin with which means that they never will “pop their cherry”. 

A person does not “pop their cherry” and a “popped cherry” does not mean a person is no longer pure. There has never been validity to these messages.


Myth #4: Virginity is an accurate concept (CW: Sexual Violence and Racism)

In her book Virgin: The Untouched History, Hanne Blank, shares that humans have constructed the idea of virginity. This concept, that almost always focuses on females in heterosexual sexual encounters, has been used as an exploitative force for political and cultural forces. In fact, in the Renaissance and Medieval periods, western virginity was symbolized by whiteness and nonwhite people were viewed as sexually immoral. European colonizers also used the concept of virginity to sexually abuse Black women. A 2016 article published in Black & Gold, discusses how Black women were hyper sexualized by white men in order to justify raping and dehumanizing them. The idea of virginity was critical in this historical narrative to justify that white women were pure while Black women were viewed as impure.

The concept of virginity is problematic because it teaches women that their virginity (a.k.a. their sexual behavior) is a commodity for men. Women are often shamed for being sexual, a.k.a. “losing their virginity”, while men are praised for doing so. This sexist ideology that it is okay for men to have sex, but not for women can lead to slut-shaming.  

Virginity is important to some people who choose to engage in abstinence (often defined as waiting to have sex until marriage) or secondary abstinence (waiting to have sex until marriage after having sex prior). According to a study published in Sexuality & Culture, secondary virginity is based on the social construction of gendered sexuality and heterosexuality. This idea of secondary virginity is often infused with conservative Christian ideology, but for some, it is simply a method to protect against pregnancy and STIs. For others, it is a commitment to wait until they are emotionally connected to someone, in some cases waiting to have sex until marriage. 

The term ‘virgin’ is typically used to describe a person who has never had sex, but this is also challenging since the definition of sex is ambiguous. According to Planned Parenthood, the concept of virginity is inaccurate because everyone defines sex differently and the term is not helpful in determining if someone was sexually active or not. Only you can decide if you are a virgin, but it doesn’t need to matter or hold value unless you want it to. Sexuality professionals recommend using less loaded terms such as ‘sexual debut’ or ‘first sexual encounter’. According to Healthline, this myth of virginity can impact the way we think about sex and our expectations for sex in the first place. The concept of virginity as we know it assumes that one is losing something when they have sex for the first time, putting a negative connotation on sex.


Myth #5: The words vulva and vagina are interchangeable

This is something a lot of people misunderstand, including people with vulvas. Planned Parenthood defines the vulva as the part of the genitals on the outside of the body of those who were assigned female at birth. The vagina, however, is a canal that connects one’s vulva with their cervix and uterus. It’s the portal to which babies and menstrual blood leave the body. Vaginas are one part of the vulva, which is the larger structure.

Source: Planned Parenthood

Source: Planned Parenthood


Myth #6: People with disabilities and chronic illnesses cannot have sex

People with disabilities and chronic illnesses are sexual beings. The myth that they cannot have sex or are not sexual largely stems from ableism. Our Bodies, Ourselves, an organization that empowers women with information about health, sexuality and reproduction, debunks this myth that those with chronic illness and disabilities are uninterested in sex, unable to have sex, or are undesirable. In fact, they indicate that some women with chronic illness, such as fibromyalgia, find that direct genital stimulation can help block the pain that they are feeling. They also note that medical establishments need to recognize that people with chronic illness and disabilities want to be seen as sexual beings. A study published in American Family Physician specifies that this assumption can be harmful to those with disabilities and chronic illnesses, as it can cause them to become uninterested in sex because of misconceptions about their ability to have sex, as well as other factors, such as depression, fatigue, pain and stress.


Myth #7: Sex ends with ejaculation

Absolutely not! Sexual interactions are about the pleasure of all parties involved. It is important to communicate with your partner(s) about when you are ready for sex to be over. Partnered sex is about communal pleasure. Unless you are engaging in a specific BDSM scene where one person’s pleasure is prioritized over another, such as in a M/S dynamic, and it has been decided beforehand, everyone’s pleasure should be prioritized.  

Pleasure is the cornerstone of sexual wellbeing. Ejaculation is not. All bodies are different and not all bodies will always ejaculate during sex. Everyone’s pleasure is important! 


Myth #8: The pullout method is an effective way to prevent pregnancy

This myth is one that affects people who are engaging in penile-vaginal intercourse, which is not reflective of all sexual interactions. The pullout method is a method of birth control where the partner with a penis removes their penis from the vagina before ejaculation occurs. Some may believe that the pullout method is a reliable and effective method of birth control, when in fact it is not. According to Planned Parenthood, the pullout method, also known as withdrawal, is only 78% effective when used alone. Furthermore, the pullout method does not work to protect against STIs. Barrier methods such as internal and external condoms and dental dams are safer methods that can effectively prevent pregnancy and the transmission of STIs and HIV.


Myth #9: Kink is shameful

Kink is not shameful. It is actually extremely common. An article published in Haworth Press reveals that up to 14% of American men and 11% of American women report having engaged in some form of BDSM. The Kink Clinical Practice Guidelines also state that approximately 45-60% of the population experience fantasies related to dominance and/or submission. By understanding how common kink is, we can begin to break down the stigma surrounding kink and those that practice it. 

Kink is also not a monolith. When shaming the world of kink, many are shaming a concept, rather than an act. There are multiple ways to engage in kink, such as bondage, dominance, masochism, submission, and role play, and none of them are shameful. Give this Glamour article a read to learn more about kinks and fetishes in A to Z format.

Research published in the Journal of Sex Medicine suggests that people who practice kink have a desire to engage in discussions with their health care providers about their health without fear of being judged for their sexual desires. The more that kink is societally stigmatized, the more harmful it can be to those engaging in kink.

TLDR: Kink is not shameful and Kinksters should not be stigmatized. A kink is simply a form of sexual desire or behavior. 

Takeaway

While these are not the only myths and misconceptions about sex, these are some of the common ones we have heard frequently. It is always good to do your research before believing something new about sex, or anything for that matter. There is so much false information, and we are here to help. Some things you can do when encountering new information about sex include: consider the source of the information, research the information yourself and look for empirical evidence that supports or disproves it, and talk with professionals about why said information is fact versus opinion.

Remember, sexuality education is a lifelong journey. Looking for more resources to continue learning? Visit our resources page here to learn more.