Sexual performance anxiety is anxiety that interferes with one’s enjoyment of sexual activities and this gets in the way of their sexual performance (i.e. erectile dysfunction in some cases is caused by sexual performance anxiety). Sexual performance anxiety manifests in different ways, both physically and emotionally. Unusual little to no interest in sexual activities, premature ejactulation, being unable to have an erection or vaginal lubrication are all possible signs of sexual performance anxiety. Some examples of causes of sexual performance anxiety are body image/self-esteem issues, sexual trauma, and feeling emotionally disconnected from sexual partner(s). The effects of this anxiety can make sex more difficult to enjoy and thus can lead to an unsatisfying sex life. Fortunately, there are several things you can try to improve your relationship with sex if you struggle with any of the above.

1. Meditate

Anxiety around intimacy gets in the way of being able to feel in the moment during sex. Developing a meditation practice may help some people navigate their sexual anxiety. Anxiety manifests phsyically as well as mentally, so having meditation as a tool to mitigate that has the capacity to improve your sexual experiences.

2. Communicate

Trying to grapple with anxiety alone, especially when it pertains to a partnered activity, can be paralyzing. That’s why it can make a world of difference to be transparent about your feelings and experience with your partner(s). Perhaps there are certain boundaries or behaviors you can agree on that would ease some of the anxiety.