In recent years, popular TV shows like Sex Education and Sex Love & Goop have brought the concept of sex therapy into the limelight. But beyond the screen, what exactly is sex therapy? In this blog post, we delve into the specifics of this unique form of psychotherapy, designed to address a myriad of concerns related to sexual function, intimacy, and romantic relationships.
What is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy falls under the umbrella of psychotherapy, targeting issues such as sexual function, intimacy, and romantic and sexual well-being. It goes beyond the bedroom, addressing concerns like painful sex, erectile dysfunction, fear of intimacy, lack of desire (for those who do not identify as asexual), and challenges in identifying or communicating sexual and relationship needs and boundaries. Consider making an appointment with a sex therapist if sex does not feel pleasurable or is painful, if you’ve never felt “comfortable” during sex, if you have concerns around orgasm, or frustrations with wanting to last longer during sex. These are some of many considerations that can be addressed in sex therapy.
Embrace Sexual Wellness has a team of therapists that specialize in sexuality-related concerns as well as a blog and an extensive resources page covering sexuality topics and mental health. If you reside outside Illinois, the AASECT certified professionals directory can help you connect with a qualified sex therapist.
Sex Therapy Certification and Professional Standards
The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) is the certifying organization for sex therapists. Sex therapists, as per AASECT, are licensed mental health professionals specializing in psychotherapy for clients dealing with sexual issues and concerns. Importantly, sex therapists adhere to strict ethical guidelines and do not engage in sexual contact with their clients.
What is the Role of Sex Therapists?
Contrary to common misconceptions, sex therapists primarily provide talk therapy. Sex therapists, surrogate partners, and sex coaches play distinct roles in supporting individuals or couples within the realm of sexual health and well-being. Sex therapists address psychological and emotional aspects of sexuality, utilizing therapeutic techniques to help clients explore and resolve sexual issues, such as communication problems, intimacy concerns, or past trauma. Surrogate partners, working closely in collaboration with a licensed therapist, engage in hands-on, experiential work with clients to address both physical and emotional aspects of sexual difficulties, providing a safe space for the exploration and practice of interpersonal and sexual skills. Sex coaches focus on education, empowerment, and the implementation of goal-oriented strategies to enhance overall sexual satisfaction. They can offer guidance, information, and skill-building exercises to help individuals or couples achieve their desired sexual goals. Each of these professionals contributes uniquely to the broader field of sexuality by providing distinct approaches to address a range of concerns. The scope of this blog is referring specifically to sex therapists.
Who is sex therapy for?
Sex therapy, whether individual or couples-based, addresses a range of concerns. The duration of therapy varies based on the nature of the issues, offering tailored solutions. It helps individuals with sexual dysfunctions like erectile dysfunction or low libido. Couples experiencing challenges with communication about desires or facing relationship challenges, including infidelity or trust issues, can also benefit from sex therapy. Those who've experienced sexual trauma seek therapy to rebuild a healthy relationship with sexuality. Couples with differing sexual desires can learn to understand one other's needs. Individuals or couples may seek therapy to explore and enhance their sexual experiences. Additionally, sex therapy supports LGBTQ+ individuals facing challenges related to sexual identity and relationship dynamics, as well as those dealing with gender identity issues, including gender transition.
What happens in sex therapy?
The structure of sex therapy varies, adapting to the specific needs of the client(s). Therapists often assign home exercises aimed at managing concerns effectively. These exercises may include dedicated time for partner connection, self-exploration activities, and other assignments tailored to the individual or couple. Many therapists also offer free consultation calls where you can further discuss your concerns and determine if sex therapy, or that therapist, is a good fit for you.
