Embracing Intimacy This Halloween: Spooky Ideas for Connection

How can you build intimacy with your partner this Halloween?

Halloween is a time for spooky fun, costumes, and, often, a bit of mischief. But it can also be a unique opportunity to enhance intimacy with your partner. With its playful spirit and festive atmosphere, Halloween can provide a perfect backdrop for deepening your connection. Here are some creative ideas to spark intimacy this Halloween season.

Costume Play: Unleash Your Fantasies

Costumes aren’t just for parties; they can be a playful way to explore fantasies with your partner. Choose costumes that excite both of you—perhaps a classic duo like a vampire and their victim, or something more unconventional. The act of dressing up allows you to step outside your everyday selves and embrace new roles, fostering a sense of adventure and intimacy.

Haunted House Date Night

Visiting a haunted house can be an exhilarating experience. The thrill of fear can heighten adrenaline and create a bonding moment as you cling to each other in fright. Afterwards, discuss your favorite scares over a cozy meal or hot drinks to keep the connection alive.

Candlelit Pumpkin Carving

Turn pumpkin carving into a romantic activity. Set the scene with candles and soft music, then carve out your designs together. Share stories or memories as you work, and don’t forget to enjoy some pumpkin seeds or your favorite fall snacks. The creative process can lead to laughter and a relaxed atmosphere, fostering intimacy.

Spooky Movie Marathon

Host a Halloween movie night with a lineup of your favorite scary films or classic Halloween flicks. Cuddle up under a blanket, share popcorn, and enjoy the thrills together. The suspense can spark playful reactions, and the shared experience will strengthen your bond. Don’t forget to include some cozy, lighthearted movies to balance the thrills!

Create a Haunted Home

Transform your living space into a haunted haven. Decorate together, creating a spooky atmosphere with dim lights, cobwebs, and eerie sounds. As you work together, engage in playful banter or challenge each other to come up with the best decorations. This teamwork can enhance your connection and provide a fun, shared experience.

Attend a Themed Event

Look for Halloween-themed events in your area, such as costume parties, ghost tours, or themed dinners. These outings can be a great way to explore your city and create new memories. Plus, dressing up and experiencing the excitement of the night can bring you closer together.

Share Scary Stories

Engage in the age-old tradition of storytelling. Take turns sharing spooky tales or personal ghost stories, whether they're real or imagined. This can create an intimate setting as you explore fears and fantasies, inviting vulnerability and connection.

Embrace Sensuality with Autumn Scents

Incorporate the scents of fall into your intimate moments. Use candles or essential oils with scents like cinnamon, pumpkin spice, or apple cider to create a cozy, inviting atmosphere. These aromas can evoke feelings of warmth and comfort, setting the stage for intimacy.

Plan a Halloween Themed Dinner

Cook a spooky dinner together, complete with themed dishes like “witches’ brew” soup or “eyeball” pasta. Use your creativity to make the meal fun and engaging. Enjoying food together can enhance feelings of closeness, making for a memorable evening.

Reflect on Your Fears and Desires

Use the Halloween season as an opportunity to discuss your fears and desires—both individually and as a couple. This could be a deep and intimate conversation that brings you closer, allowing you to understand each other on a more profound level.

TLDR

Halloween is more than just costumes and candy; it’s an opportunity to enhance intimacy and connection with your partner. By embracing the spirit of the season through playful activities, shared experiences, and open communication, you can create lasting memories and deepen your bond. So, this Halloween, let the spooky fun lead you to new heights of intimacy!

Looking to Enjoy Sex When Trying to Conceive? Here Are 4 Tips

Conceiving is an exciting time for a lot of reasons, but sexiness isn’t generally known as one of them. The process of trying to conceive for some can border on business at times between tactics like tracking ovulation cycles and scheduling sex. Regardless of efficacy, this definitely takes some of the fun and pleasure out of sex and it can start to feel like more of a chore than anything else. Having sex with a goal doesn’t mean it has to be devoid of fun! Here are some tips for enjoying sex while conceiving is on the brain:

1) Switch it up

• Perhaps an obvious point, but an important one nonetheless, keep it fresh! Whether that means trying out sex toys, new positions, BDSM/kink, shared erotica or porn, new times of day, or another tactic, keeping it fresh will help retain the excitement that sex brings.

2) Try to enjoy the journey even though the motivation behind the sex is destination-oriented

• When you’re having sex more frequently than you might otherwise, it’s tempting to want to cut to the chase and skip the foreplay. All this will do in reality is diminish your enjoyment, and potentially make it harder to have sex at all; for instance, if you can’t produce lubrication because you haven’t had enough foreplay, penetration might not work at all. All this is to say that foreplay is worth the time and will make sex feel less like a chore. Furthermore, it will help you feel more connected to your partner and more at ease.

• A related point is to try to have both “goal oriented” sex for your conception journey and additionally, sex just for fun. If all your sex is goal oriented, the stress and pressure begins to be associated with sex might serve to discourage you from having it.

3) Spontaneity versus scheduling

• There are pros and cons to spontaneous sex versus scheduling sex. Spontaneous sex might feel more natural and less pressured, while scheduling sex allows for synchronicity with fertility cycles. Ultimately, it will depend on the personalities of the people in the relationship which one works better, but leave the door open for a combination of both (or at least try not to get stuck in the thought that one is empirically better than the other).

4) Spend some time apart

• This might seem counterintuitive to your ultimate goal but in fact, time apart will allow you both to have more “me time” to care for yourself. Conceiving to have a child is not only a physically process but an intensely emotional one and you owe it to yourself to care for yourself properly. Additionally, too much time together can be suffocating and make it hard to feel sexy when the time comes, so do yourself a favor and spend time alone.

Congratulations on your decision to try to conceive, and hopefully some of these tips will help you ensure that the journey is as enjoyable as possible while getting you where you want to be! If you continue to struggle to enjoy sex while conceiving and it becomes an issue, consider speaking to a sex therapist like one of the professionals at Embrace Sexual Wellness.

How to Keep Kids Entertained During Holiday Breaks

The upside of the holiday season: your kids get off from school and you get to spend more time with them! The downside?... you have to figure out how to entertain them! The holidays are stressful enough without having to either brainstorm a million ideas for entertainment or surrendering yourself to the screens. Hopefully these ideas will give you a jumpstart, but it will be even more effective to ask your kids what they want to do. If they’re too young to come up with ideas, perhaps you can give them a couple options to choose between. Giving kids a sense of autonomy by inviting them to figure out how they want to spend their time will make them more engaged.

1) Involve them in holiday preparations like cooking and decorating.

• Making gifts, decorations, holiday cards, and wrapping paper from scratch

• Helping to plan the holiday dinner menu

• Baking holiday desserts and decorating cookies

2) Volunteer together. Some examples are…

• Serve food at a soup kitchen

• Pick out food, toys, and/or coats for a charity drive together

• Make holiday cards to drop off at a local senior home or hospital. Alternatively, you can do it through a program like Cardz For Kidz

3) Have an indoor picnic 

• Just because it’s winter time, doesn’t mean you have to miss out on picnicking! Put together a little snack plate, lay out a blanket, put on your favorite tunes and enjoy your picnic!

4) Paint snow

5) Set up a spa day

• Who doesn’t love to be pampered? Make some hot cocoa, slice some cucumbers, and buy a couple face masks to treat your kids to their very own spa.

6) Check out events at your local library or YMCA

7) Go on a nature walk

• For bonus points, look up a couple quick facts about local plants and animals to share!

We hope you find these suggestions helpful in keeping the kids entertained through creative activities during holiday breaks. Best of luck keeping them entertained and happy holidays!