Sex therapy is “a type of psychotherapy specifically meant to ad sexual function, sexual feelings and intimacy, amongst other romantic and sexuality related concerns.” There are a multitude of reasons to see a sex therapist and if you think sex therapy might be right for you, let’s talk about actually finding a sex therapist.
Vetting Questions
If it’s accessible to you, don’t be afraid to set up consultations with several professionals to compare their styles and compatibility. The consultation is an opportunity to learn more about the therapist, their expertise, and whether you feel comfortable with them. Here are some specific questions to guide that conversation.
1) What is your area of expertise?
Like any branch of therapy, sex therapists have a variety of specialties including, but not limited to couples therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and sexual abuse therapy.
2) What approaches to sex therapy do you use?
Relating to the previous point, sex therapists have subject specialties (like sexual abuse), as well as approach specialities (like cognitive behavioral therapy). It’s important to ask about both in order to get a full picture of the therapist’s ethos.
3) What happens during a typical session?
It’s important to know that sex therapy does not include physical intimacy with the therapist. Different therapists will organize sessions differently, though most operate in a talk-therapy format. Some will have a more structured approach, while others leave room for open ended sessions.
Resources for finding a therapist
Referral Directory | AASECT:: American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists
Find a Therapist - Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR)
If you’re located in Chicago or the state of Illinois, reach out to Embrace Sexual Wellness to see if one of our therapists would be a good fit for you!
