Sex is often enhanced by variety but there are so many different options for sex positions out there that it can be hard to figure out which ones are worth trying out. While everyone’s sexual exploration journey is unique, this article aims to provide a guide to various sex positions for different contexts, such as penetration, oral sex, and physical accessibility.
What are the Best Positions for Penetration?
Doggy Style
How: The receiver is on all fours and the giver kneels behind them.
Benefits: Doggy style is a great option for those looking for deep penetration. It works with vaginal or anal sex. For even more pleasure, the receiver can stimulate their genitals while receiving penetration.
Cowgirl
How: The giver lies down (either with legs straight out or knees up) while the receiver faces them and straddles their hips.
Benefits: Cowgirl is great for receivers who want control over the pace, angle, and depth of the penetration. For people with clitorises, cowgirl offers the opportunity to grind or rub the clitoris during penetration.
G-Whiz
How: The receiver lies on their back with legs up and spread apart, resting on the giver’s shoulders, while the giver kneels in front of them or lays flat on top
Benefits: G-whiz allows for very deep penetration and it is especially good for people with vulvas who enjoy G-spot and cervical stimulation.
What are the Best Positions for Oral Sex?
Best Positions for Cunnilingus
Lying Back
How: This is the classic cunnilingus position, where the receiver lies down with their knees up and the giver lies down on their stomach with their head between the receiver’s thighs.
Benefits: It is an easy, beginner-friendly position and comfortable for the receiver. A potential drawback is that givers might experience neck pain after awhile; if this is an issue for you, the giver can try propping themself with their elbows and/or a pillow under the chest.
Kivin Method
How: The receiver lies on their back while the giver lies perpendicular, with the receiver’s bent knee over their neck/shoulder region.
Benefits: The Kivin method is great for full clitoral stimulation and clitoral orgasms.
Best Positions for Fellatio
Lying Back
How: The receiver lies down with the giver lying stomach-down with their head between the receiver’s legs.
Benefits: A classic for both cunnilingus and fellatio, lying back is a reliable, easy position. As a bonus, if the receiver puts their knees up, the giver can add anal penetration or fondle the testicles.
Fire Hydrant
How: The receiver stands up with the giver on their knees facing the receiver.
Benefits: It is versatile in the sense that the receiver can take control and thrust into the giver’s mouth, or the giver can take control of the pace and depth while the receiver stands still. It also allows for the giver to use their hands to stimulate the genitals. Additionally, the power dynamic of one partner standing and the other on their knees is hot!
What are the Most Accessible Sex Positions?
Modified Missionary
How: As the name suggests, this position is missionary - in which the receiver lies on their back with the giver on top facing them - but with a twist. A pillow or wedge under the receiver’s hips, head/neck, or other places based on your specific needs can alleviate some discomfort. Alternatively, the receiver can lay on their back with their buttocks on the edge of the bed while the giver stands facing them and penetrates them that way.
Benefits: Pillows and wedges can make the position more comfortable for all partners. The alternative method is good for receivers with mobility issues.
Spooning Position
How: Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction, with one’s front pressed up against the other’s back.
Benefits: This is a versatile position, allowing for hand stimulation, grinding, toys, penetration, grinding, or anything else you can imagine! It is also comfortable and allows for a feeling of closeness and intimacy.
The Bottom Line
Experimenting with sexual positions and learning new things about yourself and your partner(s) can be a fun endeavor. Make sure you explore consensually with ongoing communication. Remember that foreplay and lube can go a long way in enhancing your experience. If you need additional help mixing things up in the bedroom, consider seeking sex therapy.
