Body image is a person’s perception of their own body and appearance. Body image is shaped by a variety of factors including, but not limited to, societal standards, media influence, trauma, and interpersonal relationships. Unfortunately, many people grapple with negative body image which can affect mental health and sexual satisfaction. This article will explore strategies for improving body image and its connection to sex.
What is Body Neutrality? What is Body Positivity?
Body positivity is a well-known movement that encourages people to love how they look. Body neutrality, on the other hand, emphasizes appreciating your body’s abilities over its physical characteristics while accepting your appearance as opposed to loving it. One is not universally better than the other, but appreciating your body’s abilities and accepting your appearance is often more accessible than trying to love your body for people working on their negative body image.
You can combine approaches in working on improving body image. You can redirect your mind when it starts to compare yourself to others and you can curate your social media and media consumption to be more body positive in order to incorporate body positivity. Additionally, try focusing on what your body can do for you like take you on a walk or allow you to cook a meal and exercise for the sake of making yourself feel good emotionally and/or physically, rather than to change your body’s shape in order to incorporate body neutrality.
Tangible Ways to Improve Your Body Image
Challenge negative thought patterns
Identify and reframe distorted thoughts and beliefs about your body. For example, when you think “I hate my body,” you can reframe it by thinking “My body allows me to [insert activity here] and it deserves compassion.” Over time, awareness and reframing can reshape how you think about yourself.
Practice mindful self-care
All bodies deserve care regardless of the negative thoughts that may emerge. Moving your body in an enjoyable way, taking a shower or bath, treating yourself to a hand massage, or any other intentional activity that associates your body with positive feelings are great ways to demonstrate love and care.
Seek professional support
Negative body image is a complicated issue and often has deep roots. Sometimes, it is simply too much to wade through alone. This is when seeking professional help is your best option.
How Does Body Image Impact Sexual Intimacy?
Body image plays a crucial role in sexual intimacy because it influences comfort and overall satisfaction. Research suggests having a negative body image is linked to decreased sexual desire, arousal difficulties, and avoidance of sexual intimacy. Furthermore, body dissatisfaction can contribute to performance anxiety during sex which can be a distraction and inhibit pleasure. Addressing body image concerns is not only good for your well-being, but can also enhance your sex life.
To combat body insecurity in relation to sex specifically, there are a few things you can try. First, communicate with your partner(s) about how you are feeling. You can brainstorm ways that your partner(s) can provide reassurance, support, and help you feel more at ease. Second, when thoughts about your appearance arise, try to focus on your body and the physical sensations in your body instead. Third, connect with your body through self-pleasuring to help you build comfort with your body and your sexuality.
Takeaway
Body image is a complex issue that can impact various facets of life including emotional health and sexual satisfaction. Navigating body image concerns requires self-compassion and patience. By educating yourself and utilizing body appreciation, mindfulness, relational communication, and seeking professional support, you can begin your journey to improved body image. Cultivating a more positive body image is an ongoing process that is not always easy, but it is worth it. You deserve to feel comfortable and confident in your skin and know that you have the power to make peace with your body.
Body Image Resources
Adipositivity Project - A collection of photos of celebrating the sexuality of fat people
The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love - by Sonya Renee Taylor - A book by activist Sonya Renee Taylor about combating shame and practicing radical self-love
Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World That Wants to Shrink You by Sofie Hagen - A book by comedian Sofie Hagen about finding self-acceptance as a fat person
More Than A Body: Your Body is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Lindsay Kite PhD and Lexie Kite PhD - A book by doctors Lindsay and Lexie Kite
How To Love Your Body: 20 Small Ways To Start, Even When It's Hard by Kelly Gonsalves - An article with more tangible suggestions for connecting positively with your body
Embrace Aging: 10 Strategies to Foster Positive Body Image by Carolyn Karoll - An article about bettering your body image for people 40+